Thursday, January 26, 2017
I'm so glad about all the information that is now available about introversion and support for introverts. (Thank you Susan Cain, who seems to have set it all off.)
I do wish it had happened much sooner in my life.
I have lived most of my life being told, and believing, that my discomfort with social situations and people was a personal flaw, something that I needed to "get over", something that I just needed to keep doing so that I would "get used to it."
Well I lived like that for more than sixty years and I didn't get over it and I didn't get used to it.
I have always hated parties and I have always hated dealing with new people more than one or two at a time. I can remember so many hours being someplace where I was not comfortable just waiting desperately for the time when I could leave.
It is only lately that I have discovered that when I am someplace I don't want to be if I simply say something like, "Thank you for inviting me, I have to get going now, goodbye", and leave, no one bats an eye or cares. Possibly because in that sort of situation I'm usually just siting there like a lump not saying a word and it's a relief to have me gone.
And I am still struggling to be able to say, "Thank you for the invitation but that's a setting in which I know I won't be comfortable so I am going to decline."
It isn't that I don't like people at all. If I'm in a comfortable situation I do enjoy spending time with my friends.
But I have to admit that I am the most content when I'm at home on my own.
( Except of course for noise from the neighbours. )
Monday, January 16, 2017
Sometimes when I'm eating something that I know is unhealthy or really fattening I seem to eat it really really quickly.
As though I somehow think that by doing that it doesn't count and my body isn't going to notice the intake.
Whereas what I should be doing, having decided to eat it in the first place, is eat very slowly and savour each sinful mouthful.